Self Care for a Carer

Self Care, what is that I hear you say? Well let’s talk about why self care is important and those little activities that you can incorporate into your every day life to take some time out from being a carer and should put a smile on your face.

Let’s start with what is self care? I have to admit, in my humble opinion, I believe self care has become a ‘buzz word’ of today that has been recently created but I still feel it is extremely important for survival as a human being, even more so as a parent and vital as a carer.

A definition of self care – the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health.

Now, how important was that for you to hear, ‘improve one’s health.’ As a carer you have to spend a lot of time looking after someone else’s health and needs; either older or younger and in addition to your own health and more often than not your own family.

Don’t get to this

Why is self care important? You may have heard the phrase if you’re running on empty how can you help others’ and that really is the simplicity of it. You cannot complete your role as a carer from your sick bed. Therefore it is vital to stay as healthy as you can and understand when it is time to take a step back here is what one mum said recently about self care.

I got myself into this really negative place where I’d just feel guilty and shit, that I wasn’t doing enough all the time. I’d get stressed super quickly because I put myself under so much pressure, then shout, then feel more rubbish and so on.

So I consciously took a step back and really focused on all the stuff I do that’s great, or even just the stuff that’s OK, normal stuff! We do so much every day that takes physical and mental effort but I definitely only focused on all the stuff I thought I wasn’t doing x

Next let’s look at what activities can be classed as self care and whilst some of these activities might seem unusual even ordinary to you, they do work for a few parents that I know. Self care is vital and it needs doing regularly for both our health and our sanity. There were several categories that were considered ordinary to turn to from crocheting, to hitting the gym, to even enjoying the (occasional or daily) glass of wine. Reading was another important wind down whether done before bed or sat in the car whilst playing taxi service.

Other additional self care activities that some might not even consider activities were watching the TV, simply eating, getting a decent sleep, having a shower or even a warm cuppa. Some considered more extravagant self care activities from pamper massages, spa breaks to drinking champagne and even hitting the beach. Gardening, horse riding, singing and yes it was said ‘locking yourself in the bathroom’ (we have all been there!), were many of the activities chosen from carers, hopefully there will be one that will suit you too.

Whatever activities you do decide on, choose to do some daily, some weekly and some less often, but do them. These self care activities will help you, maybe slightly, help your health, reduce your stress as a carer and just maybe put a smile on your face.

 

As always, thank you for reading and I hope you have found some value in this. I would love to know if you leave a comment, what your favourite self care activity is or message me directly via any of the links @linktr.ee/shaz_crowley

Until Next Time
Sharon x

How to deal with Stress?

Stress, typically these days is part of most people’s life, especially mine. Being a busy mum, kids can send you roaring from 0-60 in seconds and with busier lifestyles than ever before, it is difficult to not feel that tension in your neck begin.

How do you deal with stress, do you have any tips or do you simply lose it or in my case reach for the wine. Whilst I understand as I get older both of these are not long term solutions and therefore I decided to do a little research to deal with stress a little healthier for all the family.

Thus let’s look at the top 7 best ways to deal with it and I would love to hear how you deal with stress, or which one of the 7 is your favourite.

  1. Chew gum; chewing gum is recommended to help lower the level of cortisol a known stress hormone.
  2. Colouring; the chance of doing something that doesn’t require a lot of attention or focus like doodling or colouring can bring a sense of calm.
  3. Change of scenery; if you find yourself in a stressful situation, try and go into another room or step outside as if you are closing the door on the situation and therefore reducing the stress.
  4. Focus on action; sometimes stress is caused by a factor that you can no longer do anything about; an illness, an accident. In this instance take action and on something you can do like considering tidy a drawer.
  5. Sing; belt out a tune, stick some music on and sing
  6. Concentrate on your breathing; the old saying of ‘count to ten’ certainly rings true here. Deep breaths will always reduce the stress and then consider adding in some meditation for extra relaxation.
  7. Pamper Time; spend 10 minutes a day minimum on yourself. Time to yourself is paramount, a book or a bath to help enjoy your time alone and ideal for assistance in thinking clearer.

 

I hope this has provided some value and do feel free to share. My go to as previously mentioned was alcohol and it certainly doesn’t help in the long run so I too will be putting some of these top tips into practice. Reach out if you use a better trick as I always enjoy connecting with my readers or connect with me here linktr.ee/shaz_crowley
Have a great week and I’ll see you next Monday.

Sharon

Energy All Day, Everyday?

Who wouldn’t like all day, every day energy eh, it may seem impossible but it isn’t?

Simple small changes to your lifestyle and your diet can start the process off and be supplemented by specific vitamins until you no longer need them. Some people know and understand this but still don’t make those changes. Let’s start together today.

Recently I have been of the mindset, you only live once, let’s have some fun and that’s great but as you get older, it gets harder to lose weight, harder to look fresh, harder to have energy throughout the day and I would rather feel healthy and energetic for many years to come than have a fun filled life for only a few years. What are your thoughts?

Here are my top 5 tips on making those small changes today,
1. Eat better, stop with the processed food and start to cook from scratch. Cook in bulk if you are busy in the week.

2. Plan in some exercise;  by planning it in your diary you are committing to it. It doesn’t have to be strenuous;  a walk, a cycle ride,  swimming all easy to access in the summer months.

3. Mindset; energy is positive so to make the most of it you need to be in the right mindset and have the right positive attitude and I can assure you it will make a huge difference.

4. Sleep; lack of sleep is a huge factor when it comes to energy and mood so stick to the same sleep patterns throughout your week and weekend.

5. Vitamins; vitamins these days no longer need to be a multivitamin as companies are producing them for specific people for specific issues. Make sure you are taking ones that will help you.

I hope you have found some value in this and over the next few weeks I will be going into each tip in more detail as this is simply an overview. I am on this journey with you, so please click follow and connect with me via linktr.ee/shaz_crowley
If I can help in anyway especially about the specific vitamins then reach out and I will see you again soon.

Sharon

The Power of Vitamins

Who doesn’t lead a fast paced life these days, even more so when you have a young family? It still surprises me as we have so much technology and things at our fingertips than in days gone by, but when speaking to my husband this weekend about it, he believes it is because we do more in one day than we did probably 50 years ago.

Therefore leading a fast paced life on a regular basis can lead to stress, tiredness and unhealthy habits such as junk food and certainly no time for regular exercise or ‘me time’. This is where the power of vitamins come in and I understand that they are not for everyone especially if you eat a well balanced diet. However for some of us, convenience and time seems to take priority.

Vitamins are simply compounds that our bodies cannot produce and we need to get from food but when you are not eating a balanced diet that is when you can start to feel sluggish, tired and irritable, to name a few symptoms. Unfortunately it is only when we feel this way we understand that we are lacking in certain vitamins, therefore I truly believe people should take vitamins before reaching that point.

Today I have been researching magnesium and have found that low levels have a huge  impact on both anxiety and depression which appears to be on the increase as certain statistics are showing one in five adults now suffer from depression. Other connections to low levels include headaches, insomnia and poor concentration to name a few.

Foods that are high in magnesium include seeds, nuts and oats. Therefore if you think you have low levels of magnesium increase the foods that have high levels of it and take a supplement. If you suffer with anxiety or depression and no one has mentioned magnesium to you, then I would speak to your doctor and get some. If this has been of some value, please do share and please reach out if you would like to know about the magnesium supplements that I recommend. You can reach me through any channel at linktr.ee/shaz_crowley

See you next week,
Sharon